Here is another entry in the 5 Stages of Grief journal. The words read as follows:
I spoke to someone this week about their grief, and I read them this quote. The words gave them a great deal of comfort. Sometimes we need to be reminded that our awful, no good, horrible days are a part of life. Feeling sad or bad doesn’t mean we are weak or broken, it means we need to take time to deal with what is going on in our life. Emotions make things messy, and not all of us are good at messy.
Emotions are there for a reason. They are that invisible element in our lives which makes all the other pieces work. When we ignore or neglect or deny our emotions we are stunting our own growth. Sure we can function, and succeed, yet one day the bomb that is loaded with our backed up emotions will explode…along with something in our life. The best times o deal with our emotions is when we are experiencing them.
Sometimes that means asking for help. All too often we do not know exactly what we are feeling, and we need to think and talk it out to best understand what is happening AND what we need to do to deal with it all. This does not make us weak or feeble, it means we are smart enough to know what we don’t know…which is how to deal with how we are feeling. Those darn feelings! They crop up at the most inconvenient of times. And yet without emotions we are living our lives like trying to eat ice cream without a spoon – just one big mess of our own making.