Our kitten and cat are becoming better friends. Today they enjoyed time in the sun just being warm. The older one gets a bit annoyed at the energy level of the kitten, and yet he wrestles and grooms her until she gets distracted and finds somewhere else to pounce.
Friendship is all about getting to know each other, spending time together and being able to be yourself no matter what. There is nothing better than being able to be in the same space with someone without having to say or do anything. Just being together is enough, and that only happens when we allow others to be true to themselves and ask the same of ourselves. Being comfortable with someone is an amazing gift that takes time to open.
Not all friendships will develop into this type of relationship, and we have to be okay with that. Some friends are all about the doing, others are about the creating, and still others are about talking or serving or some combination of all of these things. The key is to know what you need and which type of friendship will serve what you expect out of a friend. Asking people to be more than they are capable of giving is a recipe for disaster. Being aware of who is willing to do or be what ensures the longevity of a friendship. Being aware of this about ourselves is important as well.
True friendship is a two way street, a give and take, a serve and allowing others to serve relationship. I have learned over the years that friendships change and develop like we do and we have to allow them to grow, change and decline with the many ebbs and flows of life. As we change so do our needs, our ability to participate, and our willingness to communicate what we need moving forward. Some friendships are for a season, some are for life, and some help us prepare for facing the end.
This is a great time to reflect on our place in life and how our friendships need to ebb and flow with the advancement of time. How have we grown up and where do our friendships need to grow up, get busy, or simply enjoy a warm sunny spot on the carpet being quiet and spending time in the quiet? The gift of friendship is one that makes each day better.