I am a huge fan of macaroni and cheese, and like every little kid I grew up eating Kraft Macaroni and Cheese. It comes in a blue box, with powdered cheese and you mix it with a little butter and a splash of milk. It is God’s gift to cheap comfort food.
When my nephews were little they would come to visit and I would serve the ‘good stuff’ in the blue box. As I got older I began to like other brands and no longer bought Kraft, so once I made the mistake of serving the higher end brand instead of the stuff on the blue box. You would have thought I told them there was no Santa Claus. Instantly I lost major Aunt points and my brother pointed out that the boys only eat Kraft Macaroni and Cheese. Lesson learned, it wasn’t about what I wanted it was about what my audience wanted.
So true for so many things, it is not about us it is about the other person. We might get it but if the people we are communicating with do not get it then we did not communicate it clearly. We can talk until we are as blue as a box of Kraft Macaroni and Cheese and still nothing works. We have to change what we think, what we say, and how we say it so that the people hearing us understand completely. We are no longer the center of attention our audience is the focus. Once we understand THAT then everything else is done in service to the people with whom we are communicating.
As a side note we usually have a box of ‘the good stuff’ in our pantry just in case, ya’ never know when a little kid will eat over and we want to be prepared. Aunt points are hard to come by so anything we can do to be the favorites we are willing to do.