Sometimes things happen that are out of our control. Horrible circumstances, situations or relationships gone astray that leave us in a sea of devastation. Divorce, death, addiction, abuse, debt, pain, strife or any combination of these. It happens to all of us at one time or another. Sometimes we can see it coming and other times we are blindsided. Not matter how it happens we have to face a reality that is no longer the one we know how to handle.
It feels as if the whole world has blown up and you are surrounded by fragments of the world you once knew. You are in shock, unprepared and horrified by the remains of your life. You want things to go back to the way they were, fully knowing that it will never be that way again. It is as if you ware watching it happen from outside yourself and you have lost all control. The truth is you have lost control, it will never go back to the way it was, and you may very well be ill prepared to handle your new future.
Maybe it’s time to ask for help. Maybe it’s time to realize you do not have all the answers and find knowledge, wisdom or assistance from someone else. It doesn’t mean you are weak or helpless when you ask for help; it really means you are wise enough to know when you need more than you currently have to keep moving forward. Life overwhelms us all at one time or another and we need the experience and words of others to help us navigate our new reality. We need to know that we are not alone, that others have survive and thrived after life’s devastating moments, and most of all we need comfort and contact so we know we are not crazy or unworthy. People can provide this as long as we interact with the right people.
You can choose to try and handle all that life brings you on your own, or you can choose to profit from the wisdom of those who have gone before and learned how to come out on the other side. No one said life is fair or easy, but no one also said we had to do it all alone. Pride, fear, ego, and just plain embarrassment can prevent us from moving forward in devastating times. To survive we often need to search out beyond our own pain and simply find help. When we let the smoke clear we can ‘see’ that we need help and other people want to help. All we have to do is ask.