We Are All Travelers

I created a piece using this same quote many years ago. It was a gift for a family member. When I read it again today, I was reminded of the adventures and experiences we all encounter on this journey called life. I was also reminded that no matter where or when or how you live life, an honest friend IS the greatest gift one can receive.

If you were asked for the name of one of your honest friends, would you have a name to utter with confidence and love? Would they in turn name you if they were asked that same question? I was speaking with a young family member, who made the comment that they had over four thousand friends on Facebook. I didn’t want to steal their thunder, so I sat there without a word. They then asked me how many friends I had, I said maybe two or three. “WHAT??? You use Facebook, I know you have more friends than that.” I then commented that I think we have a different definition of “friend”. We then had a really great discussion about the difference between a friend on social media and a friend who will come help you change your flat tire, at four o’clock in the morning, in the pouring rain. They got very quiet. After I let that settle, I asked them what they were thinking about all their friends. They said, “I don’t think I have any friends like that.”

So what makes a friend honest? A true friend? Is it that they will tell you quickly when your breathe stinks? That they call you on your doo doo? Are they an honest friend because they reciprocate your investment with an investment bigger or better than your own? Or are they the person who will show up with a shovel and bail money, whichever is needed most, no questions asked? Let’s not confuse social media postings, likes and smiley faces with true friendship. Yes those people are supporters. Yes, those names and faces will encourage you by liking your photos and posts. And yes, they will help you build whatever it is you are trying to build on the internet. Not sure they would pick you up at three in the morning when your car dies…I’m not sure they even know what you look like in person.

All that being said, in the end a true friend, an honest friend is the one who knows you – all your foibles, fumbles and screw ups – and cares for you anyway. That friend knows how to ask the tough questions and will give you the honest feedback you need to be a better you. They will laugh and cry with you, wipe your nose or push your wheel chair, no matter what. And they are your friend because you would do the same for them.

Today, let us give thanks for our friends. The ones who have seen us through high and low and love us anyway. Say their name outloud, give thanks and send up great wishes for them to have a fantastic day. You know why? Because they would do the exact same – if not more – for you!