Which One Are You?

Bad things happen to good people, and we may or may not have any control over it. We have to deal with the disappointment and move on. Once the initial event or pain is over, then what? You can wallow in self pity, cry yourself to sleep, or move on. This sign suggests doing something productive and getting over it.

We all know the walking wounded that carry their pain with them forever. They present themselves as victims at every opportunity, spreading guilt like icing on a cake. They weren’t invited, they weren’t enough, they were mistreated, they were abused, they were left out, they have no talent or creativity. They just are a big walking not. Not happy, not letting it go, not wanting to move on. These are the painful people to love and support when they continue to choose to be victims in their own world. No matter what we do, they choose to be a victim.

We all know those people who seem to be rubber, nothing sticks to them. They bounce from horrible life event to an even worse situation and come back even stronger every time. They take the gruesome events of life in stride and always seem to find a bright side, a lesson, a reason to be thankful. They shrug off the pain or wounds and are able to step forward in joy and forgiveness for those who let them down. These are the people we always want to be around. They are inspiring and courageous, thankful and full of an unending inner joy. They are the glass half full people who can tell you the wonderful features of the glass when its empty.

Most of us fall somewhere in between. We get over things, learn the lesson, and still have a few wounds we harbor. We moslty forgive and may find it a bit harder to forget. Some of us are still crying over the split milk from past events or bruises, while others are busy building their bridge to freedom to get over it all. Remind yourself today that you want to get to the other side of the bridge sooner rather than later. Staying in the tears and fears for too long could leave you as the walking wounded.

Choose today which one you want to be, the walking wounded or the bridge builder.